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In life, people come, and people go. We walk through life living for others and also being helped by others. It’s the nature of humans.

If you are lucky enough to have domestic workers living under the same roof as you or maybe they come to you some days of the week to help you out with chores, you need to realise that you are blessed to have them in your life. So, the question now is: how do you manage or live with your domestic helper(s)?

Yes, some people might have had different experiences with their domestic helper(s), both positive and negative, but that shouldn’t make one lose oneself by becoming indifferent to such assistants.

A proverb goes thus: “Be good to the people you meet on your way up, for they are the same people you will meet on your way down”. This proverb teaches one to be nice and caring to people, no matter who they are, for no one knows what the future holds.

Here are some of the ways you can manage, live and treat your domestic helpers/assistants well.

#1. Love them as you love your children or yourself

Love is one virtue that melts the heart and can even be seen and felt by people who are not direct recipients. Love your domestic assistants the same way you love yourself and your children.

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It is by loving them that you can treat them well. If you don’t love or like them and probably see them as second-class residents in your home, the possibility of treating them wrongly is already there.

When someone knows that you love and appreciate his/her presence in your life, they will most likely give in their best in serving you well.

Even a shattered person can be changed through your love and acceptance.

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#2. Treat them well

Endeavour to treat people well, especially the ones helping you out or making your life easier in a way.

By treating your domestic helpers well, you are indirectly teaching them one of the core principles of life —doing and being good to others.

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It doesn’t cost more to be nice and caring to your domestic assistants, but if you keep despising them or treating them unjustly, you may regret it. So, why don’t you be on the positive side and be blessed by treating them well?

#3. Listen to them

Learn to listen to your domestic helpers. You can do this by having a good conversation with them from time to time. This is not to take away your position as the boss, no, but it is a way of understanding them better and learning one or two things about life from them.

Understanding them by observing and listening to them will give you insights into their personality and capabilities, which you can leverage on in trying to help them become better in life.

Also, this will make their stay with you a blissful one. Talk, but listen and observe more.

"Leave them with a lasting impression of you and your family. Propagate kindness in our world by treating people well, especially people that you know might not pay you back for your kindness."

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#4. Educate them properly if you can

One of the great gifts you can give anyone is proper education. Send your domestic helper to school if it is part of your contract with them. Let them have at least basic education if they never had such. If they are not interested in acquiring ‘degrees’, but rather, are keen on developing their talents and giftings, send them to where those talents can be enhanced.

Amongst many things, life is about helping others to excel in this world. They are likely not going to live with you forever, so educate them properly and equip them with the necessary knowledge to survive outside of your home while you can. They will always remember you for this.

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#5. Impact their lives positively

Let your domestic helpers have a good mental image of you by impacting their lives positively. Ask yourself —what testimony of you do they have? What would they think of you when their contract with you is over?

Leave them with a lasting impression of you and your family. Propagate kindness in our world by treating people well, especially people that you know might not pay you back for your kindness.

In all you do, let your domestic assistants have a good impression about life in general through you. You have no idea how many lives you will touch by impacting this one person (your domestic helper) positively.

I met a lady studying Law in the United Kingdom. She is from Nigeria and was a domestic helper of a particular family back in Nigeria. She started living with this family from a tender age and went to the same schools as the biological children of this family. One would hardly tell she was not biologically connected to her new family. The family sent their biological children outside of the country to study, and they did the same to her. She said, “I will do everything in my power to treat people from a humble background well and advocate for them through a law firm I intend to set up after my studies.”

This is just the story of one person. Imagine what our world would be like when you impact people’s lives positively, especially your domestic helpers/assistants.

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"It is by loving them that you can treat them well. If you don’t love or like them and probably see them as second-class residents in your home, the possibility of treating them wrongly is already there."

#6. Pass on the legacy of love and care to them

Endeavour to pass on the legacy of love and care to them. Let there be something that your domestic helper learns from you that will be propagated to generations unborn as a virtue.

Within you, you will be glad you did, and God sees the heart too.

Love, care and treat your domestic helper very well. If not for anything, remember that they are humans, and as well, deserve good things just like you.

Put yourself in their shoes and make up your mind to do to them as you would like others do to you.

Let’s continue to dazzle in our families, relationships and in raising children.

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